Some women love being pregnant. Some don't.
I was pregnant 8 times. I enjoyed my first pregnancy. It was all new. I felt great. I had time to sleep and rest and take relaxing yoga classes and rub balm on my growing belly.
The next six pregnancies ended in miscarriage. I was pregnant 6 times in five years. Finally, at the age of 45, I was pregnant for the 8th time. And this one was a healthy pregnancy.
But I hated being pregnant. There, I said it. I had a hard time with morning sickness, I felt uncomfortable most of the time. I missed not being able to go running. I could never find a comfortable position in bed. I was tired and anxious the entire time.
You know what? It's OK not to enjoy being pregnant. There is a misconception among women who have struggled with infertility that they shouldn't complain once they finally get pregnant. That they are "supposed" to enjoy their pregnancy; that they should be "grateful" it finally happened. Often, they feel guilty if they aren't happy and glowing the whole nine months.
But I am telling you, as I used to tell my acupuncture patients, that once you get pregnant, you get to start anew. You are no longer a "fertility" patient; you have now joined the ranks of all the millions of pregnant women out there. You are just like them. And you can complain about being pregnant just like they do.
Infertility sucks. You have suffered enough. Don't beat yourself up about what you are feeling now you are pregnant.
